So today is Women’s Day and it really got me thinking about the inspiring women who have gone before us.
I thought about what made them inspiring and I do believe I have stumbled upon the secret to their strength in dealing with adversity…………….”GRIT”
The definition of GRIT is as follows: “courage and resolve; strength of character”
Character is so important. I believe anyone who parents, teaches or inputs into a child’s life should work towards building this “grit” in a child.
I did some reading up about the topic and found a few articles that inspired me and below are some salient points:
1.Kids learn by example
Kids don’t always listen to what you say but will copy what you do. Make sure that the values your child is learning from you are the ones you want them to copy. If you are self-critical and project a negative self- image they will emulate that as well. So be proud of who you are and they learn from this.
2. Use teachable moments
Talk to them about failures and successes in a task they have completed and how each of those bear a lesson and that will result in a learning thereby giving valuable input into their growth and stamina at sticking to a task.
3. Stop taking charge and start coaching them
A coach can’t play the game but can teach the skills. Taking charge for a child robs them of the opportunity to feel and become competent. Doing with your child teaches and builds confidence
This is just so important you need to encourage them and keep them motivated and positive. In time these voices will resound in their heads when you are not there to encourage them this is where self- encouragement comes to the fore. Make them their own champion
5. Don’t shy away from dealing with negative feelings
Frustration and disappointment will come but provide empathy and unconditional love and understanding. Allow them to be sad when things don’t pan out the way they expected. Express your confidence in them and they will be sure to develop resilience.
6. Focus on effort, not results
Give positive feedback on their efforts not the results, encourage them to work on what they can control like hard work, or perseverance. A child cultivates grit when they know the qualities and actions they need for success and that is can be developed through dedication and effort.
In closing one of the articles I read had 2 quotes that resounded with me and is something I also need to hear.
Angela Lee Duckworth, a University of Pennsylvania psychologist, says the most significant predictor of success in kids isn’t social intelligence, good looks, physical health or IQ. “It’s about having stamina, sticking with your future – day in, day out, not just for the week, not just for the month, but for years – and working really hard to make that future a reality.”
Caroline Adams Miller, a Bethesda-based author and speaker had this to say:
“Kids with grit are finishers in life, at the first sign of discomfort they don’t run away and quit, they continue to show up and have the satisfaction of knowing that they gave their best whether there’s a trophy waiting for them or not.”
Ladies, have a super women’s day and remember you have what it takes, now pass it on!